Je l'ai dit et je le répète...

Rob Redmond et moi pensons pareil. Aujourd'hui, il a publié un article sur ce qu'on trouve offensant. Il termine avec:

But actual offense is anger. Anger is fear on some level – fear of something not going our way. Fear of something that might affect us somehow. Fear that we are falling into disrepute, fear that we will lose our jobs, or fear that we are going to be harmed somehow – all of these fears we will usually express as anger.

To not be offended is noble. It is a great, frightening undertaking to dedicate oneself to the principle that anytime offense is felt, we will ask ourselves, "What am I afraid of?", and deal with our feelings internally instead of trying to suppress or change others so that they are forced to cope with our emotional issues. Why would I want to not try to control others and instead change myself? Because trying to change the world is impossible. It cannot be done. I am the only person that I have true control over. I can change myself. The ability to change ourselves inside is our only real power.

Being offended is not power. Being offended is wearing your fear on your sleeve. It is like a big, flashing neon sign on your forehead blinking over and over again, "This person is scared to death, and they can't handle it so they blame you for giving them their feelings."

Emotions are not purchased at a store counter. They are not contagious. We create them inside of us. Controlling them is our responsibility, not the responsibility of the rest of the world. We must manage our own internal settings if we are to learn anything about ourselves and become stronger, better people who are more at ease with the world around us. To continue to blame others for scaring us, instead of blaming ourselves for being afraid, while claiming victimhood for being irrationally emotional, will get us nowhere at all.

Vous pouvez lire le reste ici: http://www.24fightingchickens.com/2006/02/18/to-not-be-offended-is-noble/

C'est ce que j'essaie toujours d'expliquer aux autres: nous sommes responsables de nos émotions. Mais certains disent que c'est une façon 'artificielle' de vivre. Il faut 'vivre' toutes nos émotions. Je ne suis vraiment pas d'accord. Et vous savez quoi? Je suis heureux. Ces personnes au contraire ne le sont pas toujours et éprouvent un certain mal de vivre. Hmm...

~Marc